A resource blog for those who've suffered through any type of baby loss, and for those who want to try to "get it".
About this blog
The intent of this blog is to form an interactive community where parents of dead babies can come together and swap information, stories, tears, memories and encouragement. This is designed to be a neutral place. We are not religious nor are we anti-religious. Come as you are. You can sign the guest book, add your baby(ies) to the baby name memory list, review books on infant death, add warnings about movies and books that contain a dead baby, add your blog to our directory or a number of other things. Don't hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or would like to see something added to this blog. Rule One: be kind to each other. We're all in this together. We all suffer and miss our babies madly.
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Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Dead Baby Book Reviews
Read a book dealing with Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Loss?
Add your review of the book (including title and author) in the comment section below.
Empty Arms by Cherokee Isle This book came in my bereavment package from the hospital and I spent every moment I could reading through it in the days after my son was stillborn. Cherokee offered some good advice on coping, what I should expect to feel or not feel and how she dealt with her own loss. It's a quick read and I thought I would recommend it to anyone suffering any type of baby loss.
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken The book was ok. I don't know what I expected from it during those early days of grief. Mostly it just seems like a blog in print. Her story, what she did, how she coped or didn't. I found it to be interesting, like I would another blog. But, it is certainly not a self help book, and it does not have much advice. She gets her Phoenix Baby in the end, so that was nice.
I found empty cradle a full heart to be a helpful resource for me, particularly as it pertained to my issues with God not saving my child. I have read many books after losing my daughter, but they didnt resonate with me for various reasons. I wrote a book that I thought would help other mother's not feel so alone, but was told it was too sad which frustrated me because every baby loss book is sad. Anyway, this book, empty cradle a full heart was sad and helpful at the same time. it combines the thoughts of bereaved parents with useful psalms and readings to help with those specific feelings. i am sorry i dont have the authors name.
We were given a really beautiful book called, "We were going to have a baby but we had an angel instead" to help our children with grieving the loss of their baby brother. It's wonderfully written and the illustrations are beautiful. It acknowledges grief as very real and doesn't try to gloss over how crummy the reality of losing a baby is for a family. I blogged about it and how it impacted all of us at http://busyhandsbc.blogspot.com/2009/06/childrens-book-about-stillbirth-and.html
There is a second book by the same author and illustrator to read to children born after the loss of an older sibling. I haven't read it personally but I imagine it's equally good. It's called "Somebody came before you."
The Shack Well, I'm not sure what I thought of the book. Right around page 60 he describes how the "great sadness" started. That was so horrible to read, but made me sad for my living daughter more so than my dead son. It was hard to relate, having lost a son to stillbirth is far different than having one kidnapped and murdered. The depiction of God as a large black Aunt Jamima type woman seemed odd to me, and I had a hard time with that. BUT, the story, the middle and end, is heart warming and makes one stop and think. I found a little comfort in it until I reminded myself that it is a fictional depiction of one man's view of God. I also found that the main character "gave in" faster and "bought" God's explanation for his daughters death far faster and far easier than I would have. I found most of the book to be cheesy. Now, I would be able to find peace if God really was like the way this man viewed him. If. But since I don't feel the warm gushiness this man did, I had trouble buying the story. It was a decent read though.
Tender Fingerprints by Brad Stetson This book is written by a babylost daddy. It helps us remember that men hurt, too. I absolutely LOVE this book. It's so raw and real, and it's more his story than a self-help book. But at the end, it tells how he reconciled with God. Which helped me a lot.
The book chronicles Darci's journey to motherhood, through loss and heartache. I read EVERY book my public library had on the subject of miscarriage and baby loss after my first loss. This book was BY FAR the most empowering and educational. It was easy to read and understand, as well as in depth and a great resource for information to take back to your doctor. I have read it a number of times, and actually just bought another copy to read since losing my second son last week.
My new book Asleep in Heaven's Nursery (http://www.wix.com/tommymannministries/asleepinheavensnursery#!__book) answers the most common questions people have after the loss of a child. It was just released through Tate Publishing
In 2008, I lost my daughter two weeks before her due date from a nuchal cord accident. In the midst of my grief I read book after book, but I had a hard time finding anything I could truly relate to. So I set out to write my own story. In June 2012, "The Littlest Angel: A True Story of Love, Loss, and Hope" was finally published. I'd love to host a giveaway on this blog if anyone is interested. The following are links to learn more about me and my story. Thanks for looking.
8 comments:
Empty Arms by Cherokee Isle
This book came in my bereavment package from the hospital and I spent every moment I could reading through it in the days after my son was stillborn. Cherokee offered some good advice on coping, what I should expect to feel or not feel and how she dealt with her own loss. It's a quick read and I thought I would recommend it to anyone suffering any type of baby loss.
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken
The book was ok. I don't know what I expected from it during those early days of grief. Mostly it just seems like a blog in print. Her story, what she did, how she coped or didn't. I found it to be interesting, like I would another blog. But, it is certainly not a self help book, and it does not have much advice. She gets her Phoenix Baby in the end, so that was nice.
I found empty cradle a full heart to be a helpful resource for me, particularly as it pertained to my issues with God not saving my child. I have read many books after losing my daughter, but they didnt resonate with me for various reasons. I wrote a book that I thought would help other mother's not feel so alone, but was told it was too sad which frustrated me because every baby loss book is sad. Anyway, this book, empty cradle a full heart was sad and helpful at the same time. it combines the thoughts of bereaved parents with useful psalms and readings to help with those specific feelings. i am sorry i dont have the authors name.
We were given a really beautiful book called, "We were going to have a baby but we had an angel instead" to help our children with grieving the loss of their baby brother. It's wonderfully written and the illustrations are beautiful. It acknowledges grief as very real and doesn't try to gloss over how crummy the reality of losing a baby is for a family. I blogged about it and how it impacted all of us at http://busyhandsbc.blogspot.com/2009/06/childrens-book-about-stillbirth-and.html
There is a second book by the same author and illustrator to read to children born after the loss of an older sibling. I haven't read it personally but I imagine it's equally good. It's called "Somebody came before you."
The Shack
Well, I'm not sure what I thought of the book. Right around page 60 he describes how the "great sadness" started. That was so horrible to read, but made me sad for my living daughter more so than my dead son. It was hard to relate, having lost a son to stillbirth is far different than having one kidnapped and murdered. The depiction of God as a large black Aunt Jamima type woman seemed odd to me, and I had a hard time with that. BUT, the story, the middle and end, is heart warming and makes one stop and think. I found a little comfort in it until I reminded myself that it is a fictional depiction of one man's view of God. I also found that the main character "gave in" faster and "bought" God's explanation for his daughters death far faster and far easier than I would have. I found most of the book to be cheesy. Now, I would be able to find peace if God really was like the way this man viewed him. If. But since I don't feel the warm gushiness this man did, I had trouble buying the story. It was a decent read though.
Tender Fingerprints by Brad Stetson
This book is written by a babylost daddy. It helps us remember that men hurt, too. I absolutely LOVE this book. It's so raw and real, and it's more his story than a self-help book. But at the end, it tells how he reconciled with God. Which helped me a lot.
To Full Term, by Darci Klein.
The book chronicles Darci's journey to motherhood, through loss and heartache. I read EVERY book my public library had on the subject of miscarriage and baby loss after my first loss. This book was BY FAR the most empowering and educational. It was easy to read and understand, as well as in depth and a great resource for information to take back to your doctor. I have read it a number of times, and actually just bought another copy to read since losing my second son last week.
My new book Asleep in Heaven's Nursery (http://www.wix.com/tommymannministries/asleepinheavensnursery#!__book) answers the most common questions people have after the loss of a child. It was just released through Tate Publishing
In 2008, I lost my daughter two weeks before her due date from a nuchal cord accident. In the midst of my grief I read book after book, but I had a hard time finding anything I could truly relate to. So I set out to write my own story. In June 2012, "The Littlest Angel: A True Story of Love, Loss, and Hope" was finally published. I'd love to host a giveaway on this blog if anyone is interested. The following are links to learn more about me and my story. Thanks for looking.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00877HE3Y
http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Littlest-Angel-A-True-Story-of-Love-Loss-and-Hope/524205644260272
http://www.heidichandler.wordpress.com
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