Another Holiday Minus

For those of us that celebrate Easter this is another occasion where we are missing a precious loved one. Another family event with someone sadly absent. I hope you are able to enjoy the Easter holiday even with the reminder that there should be another bunny hopping around hunting for eggs.
To continue with the theme of family and friend support here is a poem which I received from one of the bereavement groups I reached out to.

Dear Friends - written by Eloise Cole

Dear Friends,
If you were to ask me to measure the love I have
for any member of my family,
I would be hard pressed to answer.
Surely my love is higher than mountain tops
And deeper than the oceans
And broader than all the deserts in the world.
So too is my love for the baby who has died.

How can I be asked to pack away mementos and memories
and not speak his name?
He is and always will be a part of me.

No one can crate the depths of the ocean,
The breadth of the deserts,
Nor can my love be boxed and carried away.

Dear friends,
Please do not set limits on my grief.
Neither my love
Nor the depths of my sorrow can be measured.
I am unable to heal on a timetable set by another.
Weeks and months have no meaning
when set against the measure of my love.
Walk with me please, this difficult road of recovery,
I promise you I will heal,
When I have grieved enough for me.

Thanksgiving

The Canadian Thanksgiving has come and gone but I know the American one is approaching. This year what will you be Thankful for? In the midst of loss and grief what shining moments have you had that have made you thankful? Are you blogging about it this month? Are you doing anything special for you angel during this holiday?

Welcoming our new coauthors

I am pleased to announce the addition of three new coauthors to the DBC blog team.

Please welcome Elaine from Waves Over Stones with her son Blaine, Amanda from This Girl Will Never Be The Same with her two sons Rowan and Levi along with Jess from Epic Fail with her son Joel. The addition of three new perspectives all from a different stage in the grief journey should prove to be a resourceful addition to our blog. Feel free to check out each ones story on their personal blogs, and given them all a warm welcome.

Our new look

We've updated the look here at the DBC blog after a few suggestions that the blog seemed "depressing" with its black color scheme. Let us know how you like the new look, and/or if anything is funky.

What Etsy has to offer Baby Loss Families

Etsy, if you don't already know, is like eBay (with out the bidding) for handmade items. There are a few things on there for people who have suffered through infant loss, miscarriage and stillbirth. One thing that stood out to me was a shop that sold handmade cards named A Loss Remembered. There is also jewelery, sculptures and whatnot. Anyhow, I just wanted to take a minute and point out this card maker since there are few places to find cards for our special circumstance.

Updates Galore

I just wanted to let everyone know that I have added updates to everything that had a submission, and there were a lot!  The calendar, the name list, several directories...etc.

I have to apologize for my absence.  When I started this resource blog I was in an easier place, emotionally.  Lately though I have had a rough time being reminded that babies are still dying, everyday.  This blog has reinforced that knowledge for me, and sometimes it is hard to be a part of it.  Forgive me during the times where I need to step away and try and forget this pain.  In the mean time though, know that all of the submissions can be found i nthe various comments sections and that eventually they will be added to the formal locations.  Thank you all for your understanding.  I wish you all moments of peace.  Keep breathing.

We're on Twitter & Facebook

You can now follow us on Twitter. Twitter will be used to announce changes, updates and events as they arise in respect to this blog. Our name on Twitter is @thedeadbabyclub, but that's kind of obvious. There is also a Tweet-roll on the sidebar of the blog.


We also have a Facebook Group now. You can search for us in the groups tab. The group name is called The Dead Baby Club (again, I am captain obvious!) there too.