About this blog

The intent of this blog is to form an interactive community where parents of dead babies can come together and swap information, stories, tears, memories and encouragement. This is designed to be a neutral place. We are not religious nor are we anti-religious. Come as you are. You can sign the guest book, add your baby(ies) to the baby name memory list, review books on infant death, add warnings about movies and books that contain a dead baby, add your blog to our directory or a number of other things. Don't hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or would like to see something added to this blog. Rule One: be kind to each other. We're all in this together. We all suffer and miss our babies madly.

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If you are new to blogging and would like to be featured please let us know! Looking for parents who are new to this community and are looking for some peer support.

Friday, September 30, 2011

Baby Dust - Book Review Part One

The following review is thanks to our guest blogger, Holly from Caring for Carleigh.

The book Baby Dust by Deanna Roy is a fictional book based on the stories of real women who have lost babies. The book revolves around the stories of 5 women who have suffered the loss of their babies at varying gestations. We are able to see how their losses have affected every aspect of their lives-something you don’t normally see in a book.

One of my favorite quotes from the book is as follows: ”What horror to face, to choose the moment of your child’s death, to see the machines whir to a stop, the monitors to beep, the line of the heartbeat to go flat. No one really recovers from that.”

This book is different than anything I have ever read before about the loss of a baby. Most books are about coping with loss but with this book you see grief how it is. Grief isn’t painted as a pretty picture in this book but as something that is real and that affects far more women than people realize or care to acknowledge. The situations are real and relatable for babyloss moms. I highly recommend Baby Dust for anyone to read, whether their baby has died or not. I think this would actually be a very good book for people who have not lost to read as I think it would give them a glimpse into life after losing a baby.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Int'l Babylost Father's Day

for all you Daddies  <3

Oh Father, My Father
Close your eyes and feel me near
keep me inside your heart
let me live in your soul
you see through tears
the things we will never do
running across the fields of my youth
games never played
but it is not gone
those dreams you hold so close
for I live on in every child you see
little ones standing a lone... lost
or laughing in a playground
swinging so high
touching the tree tops
that is I
wanting just to love
feel my happiness in the song of a bird
see my sorrow in mother
hold her close forever
feeling your strength
for there will be one to come behind me
whether through God's grace or
from a different calling
a child chosen through His hand.
For in darkness, a light will appear
even if it is just the dawn
signaling a new beginning
and as you gather my mother to your heart
release your tears
let the healing begin
and discover that I am here
in your dreams
in your tomorrows
Every rainbow is the path home
and if you should stumble
I am the wings that shall lift you
Love, your child

Author: Theresa Cochrane
Copyrighted by: Growing Family, Inc.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Baby and Infant Urns

According to Blogger Stats, one of the main reasons people find this blog is because they are searching for baby or infant urns.  Incredibly sad.  I always say, I hate that you have to be here but I'm glad you are.  I decided to do a post on different sites that offer cremain products and some creative ones that I've found.  Please feel free in the comment section to add your own choices.  Here is a link to our original post on baby urns.

Choosing a cremation product for your child is one of the hardest and most important things you will ever do as a bereaved parent.  For most of us it will be the final resting place for our children's ashes.  There are so many things to think of.  You want something that will reflect your personality, your family and what the child meant to you.  Maybe you want to include something that reminds you of your child such as butterflies or rainbows or a cartoon character.  Most manufacturers of cremain products understand this and so have huge varieties to offer.  You also want to look at how well the product will stand up over time.  The quality of the product.  Do you want something to bury or keep at home?  For me personally I could not stand the thought of being away from my son's ashes.  When I first brought him home I slept with the box.  I had the idea to just carry them around in my purse but that didn't seem right.  I decided on a pendant urn.  A pendant urn is a necklace.  You fill it with the cremains and then seal it and you wear it.  Here is a photo of the one I purchased...

It was purchased from a website, "In the Light Urns."
For some, unfortunately, price is an issue.  It was for me.  I had to find something I loved for under $200.  Almost all manufacturers offer many inexpensive choices.  If price is not an issue you can purchase customized urns as well, in almost any imaginable design or material. 

Here are some sites I have come across, some may be duplicated from our original post...


Monday, September 19, 2011

Question: Mementos

What is your favourite keepsake?  Who gave it to you?  Why is it so memorable?

What is the one item, other than your child obviously, that you wish you had kept or received?