tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-63255227225267217892024-03-14T05:47:42.648-04:00The Dead Baby ClubA resource blog for those who've suffered through any type of baby loss,<br>and for those who want to try to "get it".Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.comBlogger120125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-49092875332317491952013-02-12T09:57:00.002-05:002013-02-12T10:00:17.624-05:00Celebrating Pregnancy Again - a Book<a href="http://www.celebratingpregnancyagain.com/" target="_blank">Celebrating Pregnancy Again - a Book</a><br />
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This is a link to a new book about pregnancy after a loss. The book is about her personal journey. It is available for the Kindle free until tomorrow (Feb 13th) otherwise it is $3. It is also available in paperback through Amazon for $8, and for PDF download for $3. I haven't read it yet, but I did download it. Thought I'd share it.<br />
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Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-71389021607732231692012-12-29T19:07:00.000-05:002012-12-29T19:07:01.282-05:00Christmas and into the New Year Christmas can be a very hard time to be missing your little one. I hope that you made it through this holiday with some kind of peace and going in to the new year you will be able to lift up your head, take a deep breath and step forward. <br />
Don't let anyone tell you how you should or should not grieve, do what works for you and much love to you.Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06095295770648504952noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-51727719883697946082012-09-02T15:45:00.002-04:002012-09-02T15:46:11.475-04:00Safe Blogging<span style="background-color: white; color: #454545; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">This is part one of a series I am working on regarding navigating social media after baby loss. In lieu of some recent disturbing events I thought the first post should be on internet safety. It may seem a little disjointed to do the safety one first and then do "how to's" later but for me, being safe online and keeping my kids safe online is the first consideration to make when deciding to blog or jump into FB or any other media.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We all want to make a meaningful connection after losing a child. For some of us, including myself, online friendships are sometimes the only way to keep your child's memory alive. The sisters you make online are the ones that remember special dates, cry with you, share with you, heal with you. I have said time and time again that I am indebted to all of the women who reached out to me after I lost Blaine. Who shared their children with me and who said to me "your son matters." So, how do we open ourselves up to the gifts while keeping ourselves safe from the harm?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />Identity theft: how many times have we come across a woman pretending to have lost a child? They steal photos, stories, and any details they can to make it their own and pretend to be someone their not.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Online predators: A mom on a FB group said that she checked her blogger stats and was getting traffic from an adult site. Another said that she looked at the terms used to search her blog and it included adult content. What is disturbing is that they were searching for something related to child porn and somehow the search engine gave her blog as a suggested site. I was on a message board once and this mom used to share tons of pics of her daughter and also lots of personal information. I didn't even live in the same Province as her but I was able to figure out where they lived. Scary!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Trolls: I swear some people have nothing to do but search for things they disagree with and then start arguments about it! I find it best to ignore ignore ignore. If you feed the troll it will keep coming back. They are usually harmless and are just looking for attention. Delete them, disregard them and they will go on to the next site.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here are some tips I've gathered from various sites which can help you to keep yourself and your family safe. <b>Please feel free to comment with any tips of your own or any experiences you've had. Happy and safe connecting! </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You need the HTML code, one can be found <a href="http://www.angelfire.com/fl5/html-tutorial/rclickcode.htm">here</a>. You go to "Add a Page Element" on Blogger and paste in the code. The code says "function disabled" but you can change that to your own message like "hands off!" This is not foolproof as people can still do a screen shot and take a screen capture if they want. I have not tested this.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #454545; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">This is good if you want to copyright something but it doesn't do anything to keep people from just stealing the photo. Here is a youtube video on how to <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hI49P5D_n5s&feature=player_embedded">watermark</a>. Again, I have not tested this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Keep in mind that whatever is public on the internet is really really public. Anyone can see it. Do you want everyone in the world to know that you and your child are going to be at Walmart Tuesday at 2:30pm? </span><br />
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Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-68595522349865009202012-08-27T11:04:00.002-04:002012-08-27T11:08:54.893-04:00How high of a price are you willing to pay?<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span class="userContent">View the original post <a href="http://mystolenlight.blogspot.com/2012/07/is-price-too-much.html" target="_blank">here</a>. </span></div>
Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-17155987915758857702012-08-16T19:01:00.000-04:002012-08-16T19:01:20.457-04:00UpdatesWow, over 100 pageviews today and over 120 yesterday!! Thank you for visiting and for inspiring me to start updating.<br />
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I'll be updating the resources we link to here so if you have anything you'd like to see or any sites you'd like to share please comment.<br />
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4 comments on the last post but 44 pageviews, c'mon!! Don't be shy. We would love to hear about your babies and anything that you have found helpful/healing on this journey.<br />
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<br />Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-10598968851386010782012-08-13T20:05:00.001-04:002012-08-13T20:05:42.840-04:00New Here?Every so often I check the stats on blogger to see how many people are reading, what they're reading, where they're from. I click on their link and I usually end up at a blog or two that I've never seen before. I lost my son in April 2010 and started blogging the June after. I don't think I've actively searched for blogs in a year or more. So, I'd like to open the comments up to anyone who would like to share their blog with us. Are you new to blogger? New to this community? I am so sorry you're here. But I'm glad you've found the support.<br />
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Please feel free to comment with any information you'd like to share about your baby.Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-16933836830070296152012-08-11T18:15:00.001-04:002012-08-11T18:15:06.691-04:00Urn ResourcesAccording to Google stats we get a lot of traffic from people searching for baby urns/memorial products. Here is our <a href="http://deadbabyclub.blogspot.com/2009/10/baby-urns-website-list.html">previous post</a> and I thought I'd do a bit of searching and find some other websites/sources as well. I have personally only bought from <a href="http://www.inthelighturns.com/">In The Light Urns</a>. I bought a cremain pendant to hold my son's cremains. The urn arrived in a timely manner, was moderately priced, was easy to fill and seal, is exactly what was shown in the photo online and has held up to almost two years of wear. Here are some other sites I've come across but have not used so you will want to make sure they are right for you. Shop around. This is a huge decision. For many of us we will buy one and it will be a permanent resting place for our child's remains. <div>
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If you have purchased any memorial products or urns what tips would you give? Where did you purchase?</div>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-32484201867036740442012-06-18T10:24:00.001-04:002012-06-18T10:24:57.685-04:00To Hubby on Father's Day<span style="background-color: white;">Thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for holding me up and being my rock. Thank for for listening to me rant and be irrational and emotional and let's face it, a little crazy. Thank you for holding me while I cry and making me laugh. Thank you for being my partner and my friend on this incredibly sad and bittersweet journey we call parenting. Thank you for being a Daddy to our children. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">I wish I had a photo to insert here of my hubby holding our little boy Blaine but sadly I have none. Do you? What is your favourite memory or photo of your baby Daddy and baby?</span>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-87923121215966829472012-05-29T19:15:00.000-04:002012-05-29T19:15:43.661-04:00Lil Angels HankieI just got this...blogged about it here...http://wavesoverstones.blogspot.com/2012/05/i-just-got-this-in-mail-today-totally.html<br />
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<br />Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-87236135631870467392012-05-12T22:44:00.002-04:002012-05-12T22:44:24.874-04:00Mother's DayHow do you celebrate a day for mothers when your baby is not with you. Mothers day can be such a painful day for those who's children have died. It's yet another day that reminds us that our sweet son or daughter is not here.<br />
We don't get a gift from daddy with a card saying the baby just had to buy it for us, or paper flowers made at school with such love and care, or even a bratty teenager mumbling insincere mothers day wishes as they dart out the door. For mothers day we watch all the "real" mothers around us get recognized and appreciated while we're left on the sidelines wanting to scream "BUT I'M A MOTHER TOO!!!!". Just because our babies cannot be seen does not mean that our motherhood is not real or should be overlooked.<br />
We carried a life within our bodies, no matter how short that life was, our child was a part of us and will be forever. We don't get up every morning and look into our children's eyes, we get up every morning and deal with the fact that they are gone.<br />
This mothers day, if you are a mother who holds their child in their heart instead of their arms, do something for yourself. Chose a flower that represents your child and wear it in your hair. Buy a piece of jewelry that you find special. Have a quiet day to yourself or a picnic with others to celebrate that you ARE a mother! And you deserve special recognition on this day.Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06095295770648504952noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-64101603595059761842012-02-15T13:21:00.002-05:002012-02-15T13:21:43.312-05:00Resource for FriendsCame across this on FB and thought I'd share<br />
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<h2>My Precious Child</h2>Life without you isn't the same.<br />
Others seem to forget your name.<br />
The pain at times is so real,<br />
So intense.<br />
I wish I could always feel your presence. <br />
You are my child,<br />
And will always be.<br />
Your light will shine<br />
If only through me. <br />
Life goes on--although you are gone.<br />
Old friends are different--and new ones<br />
Help Mommy move on.<br />
I wish everyone could see--<br />
You that lives on in me. <br />
You are my child,<br />
And will always be.<br />
Your light will shine<br />
If only through me. <br />
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Written and shared by Kathy Evans<br />
in loving memory of her son Sean.Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-21568076306623564322012-02-01T13:01:00.002-05:002012-02-01T13:01:32.741-05:00Coming UpSorry, I have been out of it lately. I took a well needed break from blogger. Some stuff is coming up though, including a GIVEAWAY! Stay tuned!!Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-86818677814936276272012-01-01T11:26:00.000-05:002012-01-01T11:26:23.508-05:00New Years for Bereaved ParentsI came across this and wanted to share... source = <a href="http://www.irisremembers.com/poemsandstories/viewPoem.cfm?poemID=143">http://www.irisremembers.com/poemsandstories/viewPoem.cfm?poemID=143</a>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-51171088535753326042011-12-12T09:14:00.000-05:002011-12-12T09:14:26.353-05:00Holiday RemembranceDo your families do something during the holidays to remember your loved one? If not, what would the ideal be? What would you say to them if you could?<br />
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For me, I would tell them that I want Blaine remembered. I want an ornament on their tree. I want them to light a candle. I want them to not be afraid to mention him. It's that simple. Just remember that he was here. And that he mattered.Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-17894054564251439722011-11-30T13:59:00.000-05:002011-11-30T13:59:13.371-05:00Approaching Gloom or Joy?Whether you celebrate religiously or not, Christmas can be a tough time after the loss of a loved one, especially a child. All of the expectations you had of the season; the family events you attend, minus one; questions from insensitive people or people who don't know about your loss; wanting to escape or be alone. Many of us deal with one or all of these issues. Here are some tips I found on various sites. Feel free to comment with your own tips.<br />
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a relative or friend of someone who has lost a child but has not lost someone themselves<br />
carrying to term <br />
twin or other multiple loss where one or more survived<br />
someone who has living children<br />
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Also, I don't want to offend anyone but when I lost my son it was very important to me, as a Christian who does not go to church, to find another Christian to talk to. While the DBC is not a religious source if you are religious please also let me know (if you're comfortable). <br />
If you would like to participate please understand that this is a commitment. The worst thing is to email your penpal and feel like they're too busy for you. Please email me if you are interested, especially if you are a man, we have one man so far but it would be nice to have some more. <a href="mailto:lilyorange2@yahoo.ca">lilyorange2@yahoo.ca</a>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-71200708480216163252011-10-17T19:24:00.000-04:002011-10-17T19:24:11.080-04:00October 15th Wave of LightI was, unfortunately, unable to participate in the Int'l Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness day on October 15th. How did all of you commemorate the day? A lot of my online BLM friends wrote on my FB wall or sent me pics of candles that were lit for Blaine or sent me a note or email letting me know they thought of him. Here is one...<br />
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I was super eager to read this book. I remember when I lost my son Blaine going to the local library and trying to find anything I could. They had a total of four books on miscarriage or pregnancy loss. They were all either medical books or really old. None of them dealt with the emotions or changes I would go through as I lived through the loss of my child. "Baby Dust" is a fictional account of 5 woman and their loss. I say fictional because it is a novel however, it is a unique novel in that Deanna has taken real life stories and compiled them to make these characters. Whether fictional or not, so much of it rang true for me. I could see myself in each of the characters but the one I feel I related to the most was Melinda. The guilt she felt, the hallucinations, the attempts to "look normal," her hesitation to join the group of women and talk about her loss, I remember all of that. <br />
I really enjoyed the book and as I said there was a little of each story that I could relate to and see myself and my son in. My only critisizm would be that each story ends with a sense of hope. The entire book is such a realistic representation of women and loss and yet I felt this was unrealistic. Yes, it's a novel and obviously a mother reading this, especially one who may be early in her grief, wants to believe that life will get better and easier. However, we all know that for some that isn't true. Life only gets harder and sometimes there is no hope. I would have liked to have seen one of the stories end in that way. That is just my opinion though. I would definitely recommend everyone read this book. It is also a great gift to give someone you may know who is dealing with a new loss or struggling to find resources. <br />
I want to thank Deanna for allowing us to review the book and for graciously donating a copy of it for giveaway. I hope it is a huge success and am really hoping she does a follow up novel! <br />
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"Baby Dust" was dedicated by Deanna "For My (her) Angel Babies... Casey Shay December 1997 to April 1998 gestation, Daniel June 2001 to July 2001 gestation and Emma Hope August 2001 to October 2001 gestation."<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-xo3AErpW5YU/Tph07Hond_I/AAAAAAAAAbQ/n3S36FLQPKw/s1600/baby+dust.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" oda="true" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-xo3AErpW5YU/Tph07Hond_I/AAAAAAAAAbQ/n3S36FLQPKw/s1600/baby+dust.jpg" /></a></div>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-24674480602835302952011-10-07T10:12:00.000-04:002011-10-07T10:12:48.210-04:00Giveaway - Baby DustIt seems I may have made the giveaway too hard! I'm going to simplify so please disregard the previous posts instructions. If you would like to enter the giveaway for "Baby Dust" by Deanna Roy please do the following:<br />
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That's all folks! Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-61879798088749588572011-10-01T14:21:00.000-04:002011-10-01T14:21:49.471-04:00October's Feature: Pregnancy Loss Info WebsiteWhen it actually sunk into my head that I had lost my son in April 2010 one of the first things I did was hit google. I can't remember what exactly I typed in but I ended up finding this website, <a href="http://www.pregnancyloss.info/">http://www.pregnancyloss.info/</a>. It was a God send. I went through the whole site, each link, each story. I visited it several times a day. Through that site I found many others and was initiated into the world of bloggers. <br />
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Deanna Roy founded <a href="http://www.pregnancyloss.info/">http://www.pregnancyloss.info/</a> after the loss of her son Casey. Since then she has been setting up an online supportive resource for other parents in grief. The site is broken down into several categories. There you can find links to resources on healing, grief, physical recovery, subsequent pregnancies and memorials. <br />
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Deanna has just published her first novel on the subject of baby loss. It is called "Baby Dust" and features five unique fictional stories. You can read Holly's review of the book <a href="http://deadbabyclub.blogspot.com/2011/09/baby-dust-book-review-part-one.html">here</a>. Please check back for part two of the DBC review on "Baby Dust" to be posted October 15th.<br />
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Deanna has graciously offered a copy of the book to us to use for a giveaway. If you are a blogger and are interested in winning the book here is what we need from you:<br />
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Write a post on your blog about something you found helpful or enjoyed reading about on the site, <a href="http://www.pregnancyloss.info/">http://www.pregnancyloss.info/</a>. Comment here with the link to your post.<br />
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If you are not a blogger, send us an email about something you found helpful or enjoyed reading about on the site, <a href="http://www.pregnancyloss.info/">http://www.pregnancyloss.info/</a>. Comment here once the email has been sent. Send email to <a href="mailto:lilyorange2@yahoo.ca">lilyorange2@yahoo.ca</a><br />
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Deadline is October 14th. Winner will be drawn at random. We may publish your post or part of your post here on the DBC. Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-66020464157682829202011-09-30T12:46:00.000-04:002011-09-30T12:46:39.165-04:00Baby Dust - Book Review Part OneThe following review is thanks to our guest blogger, Holly from <a href="http://www.caringforcarleigh.com/">Caring for Carleigh</a>.<br />
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<span style="color: #073763;">The book Baby Dust by Deanna Roy is a fictional book based on the stories of real women who have lost babies. The book revolves around the stories of 5 women who have suffered the loss of their babies at varying gestations. We are able to see how their losses have affected every aspect of their lives-something you don’t normally see in a book.<br />
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One of my favorite quotes from the book is as follows: ”What horror to face, to choose the moment of your child’s death, to see the machines whir to a stop, the monitors to beep, the line of the heartbeat to go flat. No one really recovers from that.”<br />
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This book is different than anything I have ever read before about the loss of a baby. Most books are about coping with loss but with this book you see grief how it is. Grief isn’t painted as a pretty picture in this book but as something that is real and that affects far more women than people realize or care to acknowledge. The situations are real and relatable for babyloss moms. I highly recommend Baby Dust for anyone to read, whether their baby has died or not. I think this would actually be a very good book for people who have not lost to read as I think it would give them a glimpse into life after losing a baby.<br />
</span>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-16260114661388759342011-09-25T17:54:00.002-04:002011-09-25T17:54:55.524-04:00Int'l Babylost Father's Day<strong>for all you Daddies <3</strong><br />
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<strong>Oh Father, My Father<br />
</strong>Close your eyes and feel me near<br />
keep me inside your heart<br />
let me live in your soul<br />
you see through tears<br />
the things we will never do<br />
running across the fields of my youth<br />
games never played<br />
but it is not gone<br />
those dreams you hold so close<br />
for I live on in every child you see<br />
little ones standing a lone... lost<br />
or laughing in a playground<br />
swinging so high<br />
touching the tree tops<br />
that is I<br />
wanting just to love<br />
feel my happiness in the song of a bird<br />
see my sorrow in mother<br />
hold her close forever<br />
feeling your strength<br />
for there will be one to come behind me<br />
whether through God's grace or<br />
from a different calling<br />
a child chosen through His hand.<br />
For in darkness, a light will appear<br />
even if it is just the dawn<br />
signaling a new beginning<br />
and as you gather my mother to your heart<br />
release your tears<br />
let the healing begin<br />
and discover that I am here<br />
in your dreams<br />
in your tomorrows<br />
Every rainbow is the path home<br />
and if you should stumble<br />
I am the wings that shall lift you<br />
Love, your child<br />
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Author: Theresa Cochrane<br />
Copyrighted by: Growing Family, Inc.Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325522722526721789.post-77769528411447160842011-09-24T13:22:00.000-04:002011-09-24T13:22:00.968-04:00Baby and Infant UrnsAccording to Blogger Stats, one of the main reasons people find this blog is because they are searching for baby or infant urns. Incredibly sad. I always say, I hate that you have to be here but I'm glad you are. I decided to do a post on different sites that offer cremain products and some creative ones that I've found. Please feel free in the comment section to add your own choices. Here is a link to our original post on <a href="http://deadbabyclub.blogspot.com/2009/10/baby-urns-website-list.html">baby urn</a>s.<br />
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Choosing a cremation product for your child is one of the hardest and most important things you will ever do as a bereaved parent. For most of us it will be the final resting place for our children's ashes. There are so many things to think of. You want something that will reflect your personality, your family and what the child meant to you. Maybe you want to include something that reminds you of your child such as butterflies or rainbows or a cartoon character. Most manufacturers of cremain products understand this and so have huge varieties to offer. You also want to look at how well the product will stand up over time. The quality of the product. Do you want something to bury or keep at home? For me personally I could not stand the thought of being away from my son's ashes. When I first brought him home I slept with the box. I had the idea to just carry them around in my purse but that didn't seem right. I decided on a pendant urn. A pendant urn is a necklace. You fill it with the cremains and then seal it and you wear it. Here is a photo of the one I purchased...<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-i3y61Rqw4Yw/Tn4Pbda4mNI/AAAAAAAAAak/KFOathTPEDw/s1600/pend.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" hca="true" height="240" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-i3y61Rqw4Yw/Tn4Pbda4mNI/AAAAAAAAAak/KFOathTPEDw/s320/pend.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>It was purchased from a website, <a href="http://www.inthelighturns.com/">"In the Light Urns."</a> <br />
For some, unfortunately, price is an issue. It was for me. I had to find something I loved for under $200. Almost all manufacturers offer many inexpensive choices. If price is not an issue you can purchase customized urns as well, in almost any imaginable design or material. <br />
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Here are some sites I have come across, some may be duplicated from our original post...<br />
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<a href="http://www.tootallspottery.com/Products/Urns/Urns1.html">http://www.tootallspottery.com/Products/Urns/Urns1.html</a> <br />
<a href="http://www.inthelighturns.com/">http://www.inthelighturns.com/</a><br />
<a href="http://www.urns.net/Infant-Urns-information.php">http://www.urns.net/Infant-Urns-information.php</a><br />
<a href="http://www.everlifememorials.com/v/urns/infant-urns.htm">http://www.everlifememorials.com/v/urns/infant-urns.htm</a><br />
<a href="http://www.evrmemories.com/infant-cremation-urns-s/316.htm">http://www.evrmemories.com/infant-cremation-urns-s/316.htm</a>Elainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08091097457612359686noreply@blogger.com5