For me, at least, the guilt and regrets were something I felt I needed to hang onto for a long time. I felt like I needed to carry the pain and grief in order to honor my babies, especially Calvin. Giving voice to my regrets and admitting to them feels like a step towards healing. I am still learning that it's okay to be happy, that it's okay to forgive myself and accept that I did my best at the time, and to let peace in.
We all find our own paths in this grief journey, but maybe sharing about your regrets can be helpful, too--for you and for others. It's always less lonely when you know someone else feels the same.
- What do you regret most about the events surrounding your loss?
- If you were able to move past this regret, how did you let it go?
- If you're in the process of letting it go, how are you working on this?
- If you're still holding onto it, why can't you let this regret go?