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Thursday, May 12, 2011

Question: How was your Mother's Day?

Mother's Day is one of the more difficult holidays for many baby loss mommies because it brings with it doubt, especially for women who have lost their only children (Am I still a mother?), and because it makes the void in one's heart and in one's lineup of living children all the more apparent.

Now that this bittersweet holiday has come and gone, can you share how it was for you?
  • If this was your first Mother's Day after a loss, did it turn out as you expected?
  • If this isn't your first, has it changed for you? Has it gotten any better?
  • Did you do or receive anything that made this day special for you?
  • Were you able to honor your baby/babies?
  • Was there anything you wish someone had done for you?


Holly said...

This was my second Mother's Day after losing Carleigh and we had a really good day. The weather was nice and we did an egg hung with my other daughters and nieces. We flew kites too.

michelle said...

This was my first Mothers day after losing Jack and I never got to enjoy a Mothers Day with him. It was very hard and filled with those feeling of guilt and doubt. He was my first, who knows maybe my last. My hubby bought me flowers from Jack and I burst into tears but I felt better after because he did that for me

KrystalK said...

It was the worst mothers day ever. On top of it being 6 months from my daughters death (not exact day) and fighting with my husband over traveling for my brithers wedding 6 hours away. Him NOT letting me stay another day to celebrate Moms day with my mother and family, nor did he buy me a card or any kind of gift, let alone make me feel good AT ALL that day. BY FAR THE WORST! :*(

A Shadow of My Former Self said...

It was a bad day, my first after my miscarriage and the death of my mother both of which occurred just a few weeks before. I was sad for all of the obvious reasons. I couldn't help but wonder how I was going to make it until Monday. Thankfully people around me didn't play up Mother's Day that much. Still, I couldn't help but be reminded that I was not a mother and had no mother. Ugh.

Crystal Theresa said...

Holly, I'm glad you were able to doing something nice, as a family for Mother's Day. Flying kites sounds lovely!

Michelle, that's really sweet of your husband to get you flowers from Jack.

Krystal, I'm so sorry to hear that your husband let you down on Mother's Day of all days. ((hugs)) I hope next year goes better and that your husband is more sensitive.

Shadow, I'm so sorry about your losses. It must have been difficult thinking about your baby and your mother. Although you didn't bring your little one home, I consider you as a mother to him/her. ((hugs))