How high of a price are you willing to pay?

In a recent blog post, on the subject of TTC post dead baby, I asked "How high of a price are you willing to pay? How many dead babies can you suffer? In the end, is all of the anxiety worth it? Have you had another child post dead baby? What did you do if you and your spouse were on separate pages?"  What are your thoughts?

 

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Updates

Wow, over 100 pageviews today and over 120 yesterday!!  Thank you for visiting and for inspiring me to start updating.

I'll be updating the resources we link to here so if you have anything you'd like to see or any sites you'd like to share please comment.

4 comments on the last post but 44 pageviews, c'mon!!  Don't be shy.  We would love to hear about your babies and anything that you have found helpful/healing on this journey.

New Here?

Every so often I check the stats on blogger to see how many people are reading, what they're reading, where they're from.  I click on their link and I usually end up at a blog or two that I've never seen before.  I lost my son in April 2010 and started blogging the June after.  I don't think I've actively searched for blogs in a year or more.  So, I'd like to open the comments up to anyone who would like to share their blog with us.  Are you new to blogger?  New to this community?  I am so sorry you're here.  But I'm glad you've found the support.

Please feel free to comment with any information you'd like to share about your baby.

Urn Resources

According to Google stats we get a lot of traffic from people searching for baby urns/memorial products.  Here is our previous post and I thought I'd do a bit of searching and find some other websites/sources as well.  I have personally only bought from In The Light Urns.  I bought a cremain pendant to hold my son's cremains.  The urn arrived in a timely manner, was moderately priced, was easy to fill and seal, is exactly what was shown in the photo online and has held up to almost two years of wear.  Here are some other sites I've come across but have not used so you will want to make sure they are right for you.  Shop around.  This is a huge decision.  For many of us we will buy one and it will be a permanent resting place for our child's remains.  

http://www.evrmemories.com/baby-cremation-urns-s/320.htm

http://decorative-urns.com/types-of-urns/child-urns

http://www.memorials.com/infant-children-urns.php

If you have purchased any memorial products or urns what tips would you give?  Where did you purchase?

To Hubby on Father's Day

Thank you thank you thank you.  Thank you for holding me up and being my rock.  Thank for for listening to me rant and be irrational and emotional and let's face it, a little crazy.  Thank you for holding me while I cry and making me laugh.  Thank you for being my partner and my friend on this incredibly sad and bittersweet journey we call parenting.  Thank you for being a Daddy to our children.  


I wish I had a photo to insert here of my hubby holding our little boy Blaine but sadly I have none.  Do you?  What is your favourite memory or photo of your baby Daddy and baby?

Lil Angels Hankie

I just got this...blogged about it here...http://wavesoverstones.blogspot.com/2012/05/i-just-got-this-in-mail-today-totally.html

Mother's Day

How do you celebrate a day for mothers when your baby is not with you. Mothers day can be such a painful day for those who's children have died. It's yet another day that reminds us that our sweet son or daughter is not here.
  We don't get a gift from daddy with a card saying the baby just had to buy it for us, or paper flowers made at school with such love and care, or even a bratty teenager mumbling insincere mothers day wishes as they dart out the door. For mothers day we watch all the "real" mothers around us get recognized and appreciated while we're left on the sidelines wanting to scream "BUT I'M A MOTHER TOO!!!!". Just because our babies cannot be seen does not mean that our motherhood is not real or should be overlooked.
  We carried a life within our bodies, no matter how short that life was, our child was a part of us and will be forever. We don't get up every morning and look into our children's eyes, we get up every morning and deal with the fact that they are gone.
  This mothers day, if you are a mother who holds their child in their heart instead of their arms, do something for yourself. Chose a flower that represents your child and wear it in your hair. Buy a piece of jewelry that you find special. Have a quiet day to yourself or a picnic with others to celebrate that you ARE a mother! And you deserve special recognition on this day.

Resource for Friends

Came across this on FB and thought I'd share

http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.corasstory.org%2F2012%2F02%2Ffree-ebook-when-friends-baby-dies.html&h=2AQH8_9QqAQFAT8HDgii71TFNBnqNHrVlacqVXEZ20ZQ0zg

Happy Valentine's Day

Just thought I'd share...Happy Valentine's to all

http://www.healingheart.net/poetry/precious_child.html

My Precious Child

Life without you isn't the same.
Others seem to forget your name.
The pain at times is so real,
So intense.
I wish I could always feel your presence.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Life goes on--although you are gone.
Old friends are different--and new ones
Help Mommy move on.
I wish everyone could see--
You that lives on in me.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.

Written and shared by Kathy Evans
in loving memory of her son Sean.

Coming Up

Sorry, I have been out of it lately.  I took a well needed break from blogger.  Some stuff is coming up though, including a GIVEAWAY!  Stay tuned!!