Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Lil Angels Hankie
I just got this...blogged about it here...http://wavesoverstones.blogspot.com/2012/05/i-just-got-this-in-mail-today-totally.html
Saturday, May 12, 2012
Mother's Day
How do you celebrate a day for mothers when your baby is not with you. Mothers day can be such a painful day for those who's children have died. It's yet another day that reminds us that our sweet son or daughter is not here.
We don't get a gift from daddy with a card saying the baby just had to buy it for us, or paper flowers made at school with such love and care, or even a bratty teenager mumbling insincere mothers day wishes as they dart out the door. For mothers day we watch all the "real" mothers around us get recognized and appreciated while we're left on the sidelines wanting to scream "BUT I'M A MOTHER TOO!!!!". Just because our babies cannot be seen does not mean that our motherhood is not real or should be overlooked.
We carried a life within our bodies, no matter how short that life was, our child was a part of us and will be forever. We don't get up every morning and look into our children's eyes, we get up every morning and deal with the fact that they are gone.
This mothers day, if you are a mother who holds their child in their heart instead of their arms, do something for yourself. Chose a flower that represents your child and wear it in your hair. Buy a piece of jewelry that you find special. Have a quiet day to yourself or a picnic with others to celebrate that you ARE a mother! And you deserve special recognition on this day.
We don't get a gift from daddy with a card saying the baby just had to buy it for us, or paper flowers made at school with such love and care, or even a bratty teenager mumbling insincere mothers day wishes as they dart out the door. For mothers day we watch all the "real" mothers around us get recognized and appreciated while we're left on the sidelines wanting to scream "BUT I'M A MOTHER TOO!!!!". Just because our babies cannot be seen does not mean that our motherhood is not real or should be overlooked.
We carried a life within our bodies, no matter how short that life was, our child was a part of us and will be forever. We don't get up every morning and look into our children's eyes, we get up every morning and deal with the fact that they are gone.
This mothers day, if you are a mother who holds their child in their heart instead of their arms, do something for yourself. Chose a flower that represents your child and wear it in your hair. Buy a piece of jewelry that you find special. Have a quiet day to yourself or a picnic with others to celebrate that you ARE a mother! And you deserve special recognition on this day.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Happy Valentine's Day
Just thought I'd share...Happy Valentine's to all
http://www.healingheart.net/poetry/precious_child.html
Others seem to forget your name.
The pain at times is so real,
So intense.
I wish I could always feel your presence.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Life goes on--although you are gone.
Old friends are different--and new ones
Help Mommy move on.
I wish everyone could see--
You that lives on in me.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Written and shared by Kathy Evans
in loving memory of her son Sean.
http://www.healingheart.net/poetry/precious_child.html
My Precious Child
Life without you isn't the same.Others seem to forget your name.
The pain at times is so real,
So intense.
I wish I could always feel your presence.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Life goes on--although you are gone.
Old friends are different--and new ones
Help Mommy move on.
I wish everyone could see--
You that lives on in me.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Written and shared by Kathy Evans
in loving memory of her son Sean.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Coming Up
Sorry, I have been out of it lately. I took a well needed break from blogger. Some stuff is coming up though, including a GIVEAWAY! Stay tuned!!
Sunday, January 1, 2012
New Years for Bereaved Parents
I came across this and wanted to share... source = http://www.irisremembers.com/poemsandstories/viewPoem.cfm?poemID=143
Monday, December 12, 2011
Holiday Remembrance
Do your families do something during the holidays to remember your loved one? If not, what would the ideal be? What would you say to them if you could?
For me, I would tell them that I want Blaine remembered. I want an ornament on their tree. I want them to light a candle. I want them to not be afraid to mention him. It's that simple. Just remember that he was here. And that he mattered.
For me, I would tell them that I want Blaine remembered. I want an ornament on their tree. I want them to light a candle. I want them to not be afraid to mention him. It's that simple. Just remember that he was here. And that he mattered.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Approaching Gloom or Joy?
Whether you celebrate religiously or not, Christmas can be a tough time after the loss of a loved one, especially a child. All of the expectations you had of the season; the family events you attend, minus one; questions from insensitive people or people who don't know about your loss; wanting to escape or be alone. Many of us deal with one or all of these issues. Here are some tips I found on various sites. Feel free to comment with your own tips.
http://www.opentohope.com/?post=surviving-the-holidays
http://sids-network.org/survhol.htm
www.griefshare.org/holidays
http://www.opentohope.com/?post=surviving-the-holidays
http://sids-network.org/survhol.htm
www.griefshare.org/holidays
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Penpals
I often get emails from moms looking to make personal connections with other moms who have been in the same situation. I'd like to start up a penpal program so that I have appropriate people to refer these emails to (Dad's included!). I am looking for people who fit in the following categories:
a relative or friend of someone who has lost a child but has not lost someone themselves
carrying to term
twin or other multiple loss where one or more survived
someone who has living children
medical termination
Also, I don't want to offend anyone but when I lost my son it was very important to me, as a Christian who does not go to church, to find another Christian to talk to. While the DBC is not a religious source if you are religious please also let me know (if you're comfortable).
If you would like to participate please understand that this is a commitment. The worst thing is to email your penpal and feel like they're too busy for you. Please email me if you are interested, especially if you are a man, we have one man so far but it would be nice to have some more. lilyorange2@yahoo.ca
a relative or friend of someone who has lost a child but has not lost someone themselves
carrying to term
twin or other multiple loss where one or more survived
someone who has living children
medical termination
Also, I don't want to offend anyone but when I lost my son it was very important to me, as a Christian who does not go to church, to find another Christian to talk to. While the DBC is not a religious source if you are religious please also let me know (if you're comfortable).
If you would like to participate please understand that this is a commitment. The worst thing is to email your penpal and feel like they're too busy for you. Please email me if you are interested, especially if you are a man, we have one man so far but it would be nice to have some more. lilyorange2@yahoo.ca
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