Came across this on FB and thought I'd share
http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.corasstory.org%2F2012%2F02%2Ffree-ebook-when-friends-baby-dies.html&h=2AQH8_9QqAQFAT8HDgii71TFNBnqNHrVlacqVXEZ20ZQ0zg
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Happy Valentine's Day
Just thought I'd share...Happy Valentine's to all
http://www.healingheart.net/poetry/precious_child.html
Others seem to forget your name.
The pain at times is so real,
So intense.
I wish I could always feel your presence.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Life goes on--although you are gone.
Old friends are different--and new ones
Help Mommy move on.
I wish everyone could see--
You that lives on in me.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Written and shared by Kathy Evans
in loving memory of her son Sean.
http://www.healingheart.net/poetry/precious_child.html
My Precious Child
Life without you isn't the same.Others seem to forget your name.
The pain at times is so real,
So intense.
I wish I could always feel your presence.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Life goes on--although you are gone.
Old friends are different--and new ones
Help Mommy move on.
I wish everyone could see--
You that lives on in me.
You are my child,
And will always be.
Your light will shine
If only through me.
Written and shared by Kathy Evans
in loving memory of her son Sean.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Coming Up
Sorry, I have been out of it lately. I took a well needed break from blogger. Some stuff is coming up though, including a GIVEAWAY! Stay tuned!!
Sunday, January 1, 2012
New Years for Bereaved Parents
I came across this and wanted to share... source = http://www.irisremembers.com/poemsandstories/viewPoem.cfm?poemID=143
Monday, December 12, 2011
Holiday Remembrance
Do your families do something during the holidays to remember your loved one? If not, what would the ideal be? What would you say to them if you could?
For me, I would tell them that I want Blaine remembered. I want an ornament on their tree. I want them to light a candle. I want them to not be afraid to mention him. It's that simple. Just remember that he was here. And that he mattered.
For me, I would tell them that I want Blaine remembered. I want an ornament on their tree. I want them to light a candle. I want them to not be afraid to mention him. It's that simple. Just remember that he was here. And that he mattered.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Approaching Gloom or Joy?
Whether you celebrate religiously or not, Christmas can be a tough time after the loss of a loved one, especially a child. All of the expectations you had of the season; the family events you attend, minus one; questions from insensitive people or people who don't know about your loss; wanting to escape or be alone. Many of us deal with one or all of these issues. Here are some tips I found on various sites. Feel free to comment with your own tips.
http://www.opentohope.com/?post=surviving-the-holidays
http://sids-network.org/survhol.htm
www.griefshare.org/holidays
http://www.opentohope.com/?post=surviving-the-holidays
http://sids-network.org/survhol.htm
www.griefshare.org/holidays
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Penpals
I often get emails from moms looking to make personal connections with other moms who have been in the same situation. I'd like to start up a penpal program so that I have appropriate people to refer these emails to (Dad's included!). I am looking for people who fit in the following categories:
a relative or friend of someone who has lost a child but has not lost someone themselves
carrying to term
twin or other multiple loss where one or more survived
someone who has living children
medical termination
Also, I don't want to offend anyone but when I lost my son it was very important to me, as a Christian who does not go to church, to find another Christian to talk to. While the DBC is not a religious source if you are religious please also let me know (if you're comfortable).
If you would like to participate please understand that this is a commitment. The worst thing is to email your penpal and feel like they're too busy for you. Please email me if you are interested, especially if you are a man, we have one man so far but it would be nice to have some more. lilyorange2@yahoo.ca
a relative or friend of someone who has lost a child but has not lost someone themselves
carrying to term
twin or other multiple loss where one or more survived
someone who has living children
medical termination
Also, I don't want to offend anyone but when I lost my son it was very important to me, as a Christian who does not go to church, to find another Christian to talk to. While the DBC is not a religious source if you are religious please also let me know (if you're comfortable).
If you would like to participate please understand that this is a commitment. The worst thing is to email your penpal and feel like they're too busy for you. Please email me if you are interested, especially if you are a man, we have one man so far but it would be nice to have some more. lilyorange2@yahoo.ca
Monday, October 17, 2011
October 15th Wave of Light
I was, unfortunately, unable to participate in the Int'l Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness day on October 15th. How did all of you commemorate the day? A lot of my online BLM friends wrote on my FB wall or sent me pics of candles that were lit for Blaine or sent me a note or email letting me know they thought of him. Here is one...
Friday, October 14, 2011
Baby Dust by Deanna Roy - Review and Giveaway
Since you are all going to scroll down anyway I'll just announce the winner first! First to let you know how I picked. I found a website where you put names in a virtual hat and they assign the names. So, I put everyone's names in the hat, as well as my own, and it assigned the name to me. That's the person who won the giveaway. drum roll... Sarita Boyette! Please email me your address so I can snail mail you the book. lilyorange2@yahoo.ca
I was super eager to read this book. I remember when I lost my son Blaine going to the local library and trying to find anything I could. They had a total of four books on miscarriage or pregnancy loss. They were all either medical books or really old. None of them dealt with the emotions or changes I would go through as I lived through the loss of my child. "Baby Dust" is a fictional account of 5 woman and their loss. I say fictional because it is a novel however, it is a unique novel in that Deanna has taken real life stories and compiled them to make these characters. Whether fictional or not, so much of it rang true for me. I could see myself in each of the characters but the one I feel I related to the most was Melinda. The guilt she felt, the hallucinations, the attempts to "look normal," her hesitation to join the group of women and talk about her loss, I remember all of that.
I really enjoyed the book and as I said there was a little of each story that I could relate to and see myself and my son in. My only critisizm would be that each story ends with a sense of hope. The entire book is such a realistic representation of women and loss and yet I felt this was unrealistic. Yes, it's a novel and obviously a mother reading this, especially one who may be early in her grief, wants to believe that life will get better and easier. However, we all know that for some that isn't true. Life only gets harder and sometimes there is no hope. I would have liked to have seen one of the stories end in that way. That is just my opinion though. I would definitely recommend everyone read this book. It is also a great gift to give someone you may know who is dealing with a new loss or struggling to find resources.
I want to thank Deanna for allowing us to review the book and for graciously donating a copy of it for giveaway. I hope it is a huge success and am really hoping she does a follow up novel!
"Baby Dust" was dedicated by Deanna "For My (her) Angel Babies... Casey Shay December 1997 to April 1998 gestation, Daniel June 2001 to July 2001 gestation and Emma Hope August 2001 to October 2001 gestation."
I was super eager to read this book. I remember when I lost my son Blaine going to the local library and trying to find anything I could. They had a total of four books on miscarriage or pregnancy loss. They were all either medical books or really old. None of them dealt with the emotions or changes I would go through as I lived through the loss of my child. "Baby Dust" is a fictional account of 5 woman and their loss. I say fictional because it is a novel however, it is a unique novel in that Deanna has taken real life stories and compiled them to make these characters. Whether fictional or not, so much of it rang true for me. I could see myself in each of the characters but the one I feel I related to the most was Melinda. The guilt she felt, the hallucinations, the attempts to "look normal," her hesitation to join the group of women and talk about her loss, I remember all of that.
I really enjoyed the book and as I said there was a little of each story that I could relate to and see myself and my son in. My only critisizm would be that each story ends with a sense of hope. The entire book is such a realistic representation of women and loss and yet I felt this was unrealistic. Yes, it's a novel and obviously a mother reading this, especially one who may be early in her grief, wants to believe that life will get better and easier. However, we all know that for some that isn't true. Life only gets harder and sometimes there is no hope. I would have liked to have seen one of the stories end in that way. That is just my opinion though. I would definitely recommend everyone read this book. It is also a great gift to give someone you may know who is dealing with a new loss or struggling to find resources.
I want to thank Deanna for allowing us to review the book and for graciously donating a copy of it for giveaway. I hope it is a huge success and am really hoping she does a follow up novel!
"Baby Dust" was dedicated by Deanna "For My (her) Angel Babies... Casey Shay December 1997 to April 1998 gestation, Daniel June 2001 to July 2001 gestation and Emma Hope August 2001 to October 2001 gestation."
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