Another Holiday Minus

For those of us that celebrate Easter this is another occasion where we are missing a precious loved one. Another family event with someone sadly absent. I hope you are able to enjoy the Easter holiday even with the reminder that there should be another bunny hopping around hunting for eggs.
To continue with the theme of family and friend support here is a poem which I received from one of the bereavement groups I reached out to.

Dear Friends - written by Eloise Cole

Dear Friends,
If you were to ask me to measure the love I have
for any member of my family,
I would be hard pressed to answer.
Surely my love is higher than mountain tops
And deeper than the oceans
And broader than all the deserts in the world.
So too is my love for the baby who has died.

How can I be asked to pack away mementos and memories
and not speak his name?
He is and always will be a part of me.

No one can crate the depths of the ocean,
The breadth of the deserts,
Nor can my love be boxed and carried away.

Dear friends,
Please do not set limits on my grief.
Neither my love
Nor the depths of my sorrow can be measured.
I am unable to heal on a timetable set by another.
Weeks and months have no meaning
when set against the measure of my love.
Walk with me please, this difficult road of recovery,
I promise you I will heal,
When I have grieved enough for me.

Question: Reconciling

How supportive have your family and friends been since the loss of your child? How have you reconciled with those who you feel did not support you or did not remember the milestones, such as due dates, angelversary's, birthdays? What is one thing you would like them to know? For those struggling with family and friends you may want to read and/or share this

Question: Memory Boxes

I am creating some memory boxes to donate to the hospital in memory of my son's one year Angelversary.

Has anyone else put together boxes to donate or give to BLM friends? What sort of items did you include? Did you receive one from the hospital or a bereavement group after your loss? What was included in it and what did you appreciate the most?

Help Needed

Okay, I never got around to doing the Featured Blog. To be honest I am at a creative dead end. I have even been neglecting my own blog. With all of my one year anniversaries with Blaine coming up and with being pregnant during those one year anniversaries I just really don't have much strength for writing. I hate not to post things because I know how many people read this regularly. So, I have to ask for some help. If anyone would like to help with that Feature please let me know. Even if we could switch off months. I'm kind of out of ideas and no one has suggested any so maybe having a second person would help stir it up.

Updates

I've been quite busy lately, haven't had time to come over here much. I'm going to start the Monthly Blog Feature back up again on March 1st. If anyone has suggestions please let me know. Amanda has made a really neat button so if you're blog is featured please feel free to put the button on your blog.

Happy Valentine's Day - Question

Did you do anything special today for your little one? Do you and your partner still try to make it romantic? Or is it just another day?

Name Photos

We all know how wonderful and heartwarming it is to receive a photo of our child's name. For some of us we will never have any actual photos of our children. Receiving a photo from someone means that that person has taken the time to think of your child. For one moment in time, somewhere else in the world someone thought your child's name and acted on their behalf. The above is one of my favourites and one of the first that I received for my boy. I received it from Angela mother to Dash.

Do you have a favourite photo of your child's name? Where was it taken? Why is it significant to you?

Do you have a blog where you create free name photos for parents that you would like to share?

Calendar

I have updated the calendar. If you did not include a name or date for your baby I was not able to add them. Feel free to comment on any of the related posts and I will update or add at anytime. Thanks for allowing me to do this for your little ones.

DBC Calendar

I'm going to update our calendar. If your child's name is NOT listed in the "In Memory of our Babies" post or in the "Guest Book" and you want them added to the calendar then please comment and put *New* and include your childs name; date of birth; heaven date; your blog or email if you wish to share. I am including the comment section so if you have already commented on either of those posts with your info then no need to comment again. If there is an error on the list "In Memory of our Babies" or the "Guest Book" or if you want to provide more info that we do not already have then please comment and put *Correction* and the accurate info so I know it's not new.

Childs Name
Birth Date
Heaven Date (if different than Birth)
Your blog or email if you want to share

Also, please consider putting our new button on your blog!! Thanks to Amanda for making it, I absolutely love it. To me it looks like two things. One a child's hand reaching out, maybe to grab hold of momma. And two a child's hand saying STOP! Like pay attention to what we have to say!

Our New Button!!