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Friday, July 17, 2009
Question of the Week
Every Friday I will post a new question of the week. Leave your answers in the comment section below, or answer on your blog, but be sure to give us a link!
What has surprised you the most about your journey of grief?
I think for me the most surprising aspect is how in hits me out of no where. I could be having a fine day and them wham! It hits me like a baseball bat to my face and I'm a heaping pile of sobs again.
My biggest surprise was the amazing support system that's available to me. I honestly do NOT know where I'd be without you all (but rubber walls and white coats come to mind). And how quickly that support system mobilized. I went from all alone, DBM one week, to you, Heather, the next. And it's just snowballed from there. You're a priceless gift, and I thank God for all of you daily.
What surprised me the most was how lonely a bereaved mother sometimes feels. Totally isolated and without any chance to join normal life of others. Well, kind of a self-chosen isolation sometimes, but this feeling of emptiness...I never thought I could feel like that.
On the other hand the positive thing that surprises me is the total understanding between bereaved mothers. A communication without words. I need that to relax, calm down, and try to get back to normal-again.
I was surprised by the hostility I found on returning to work. As if I'd had a communicable disease. As if I shouldn't be sad any more, as if I should be the same as I had been before.
I was pleasantly surprised by the warm welcome to this, the worst club in the world. Being wrapped up in understanding has helped the most.
I was surprised at how badly other people would take my loss. For all the wonderful people that support me, there are many that have failed outright. Family in particular. I expected more from them.
I think for me the most surprising aspect is how in hits me out of no where. I could be having a fine day and them wham! It hits me like a baseball bat to my face and I'm a heaping pile of sobs again.
ReplyDeleteMy biggest surprise was the amazing support system that's available to me. I honestly do NOT know where I'd be without you all (but rubber walls and white coats come to mind). And how quickly that support system mobilized. I went from all alone, DBM one week, to you, Heather, the next. And it's just snowballed from there. You're a priceless gift, and I thank God for all of you daily.
ReplyDeleteWhat surprised me the most was how lonely a bereaved mother sometimes feels. Totally isolated and without any chance to join normal life of others. Well, kind of a self-chosen isolation sometimes, but this feeling of emptiness...I never thought I could feel like that.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand the positive thing that surprises me is the total understanding between bereaved mothers. A communication without words. I need that to relax, calm down, and try to get back to normal-again.
I was surprised by the hostility I found on returning to work. As if I'd had a communicable disease. As if I shouldn't be sad any more, as if I should be the same as I had been before.
ReplyDeleteI was pleasantly surprised by the warm welcome to this, the worst club in the world. Being wrapped up in understanding has helped the most.
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I was surprised at how badly other people would take my loss. For all the wonderful people that support me, there are many that have failed outright. Family in particular. I expected more from them.
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